Stay connected with people who inspire, nourish and bring out the best in you. It takes time to pull yourself together and to heal if you’ve been hurt, humiliated, or become emotionally broken because of what you’ve gone through. You can become disconnected with the real you and forget who you…
Real healing begins when you scoop out the lies of your distorted thinking and replace them with God’s truth about you. This will hurt. But it’s the only way to real freedom and peace and joy. Everyone will naturally resist this because it feels corny or intrusive, but more than that, it feels undeserved. When we’re so comfortable with the dark, we squint at the possibility of things getting better in the light.
Yet God is so willing to rub the salt of His Word on your wounds so that you can wake up from your own self-loathing. He’s the well of cool water for your bruised tired hands. He’s the only love who could fulfill you enough not to overreact to the pain. God really does want you to know that you are not what has happened to you nor what you’ve done. Jesus came to take your wounds into his own hands and feet, so that you may live. He did this for our final victory in eternity: but he also did this for you today, in this moment, so you may experience a foretaste of that wholeness. And God is going to move at your tempo, never rushing, because He knows that your healing will take a step at a time. But so we must be willing to hold up those truths to our naked hurt, because healing begins with honesty.
We are determined to destroy ourselves with worry, fear, anxiety, hopelessness, depression. We insist on fighting our “own” battles. We rarely check with Father about anything and then, when we do end up in trouble, we insist on telling him how to help us, refusing to accept anything else.
Art is what happens when you dare to be who you really are. You have the power to influence, to move, to make, to become. You have the capacity to perform the human act of making art, of doing work that comes from deep within you and touches something deep within me. We make art with our lives.
God always answers our prayers. But he does not always answer them in the way or timing that we desire. Indeed, we may never learn the how and why of God’s will. Our faith is tested as we struggle to find contentment in God’s will, whatever may come. Reflecting on the challenge of “unanswered” prayer, J. I. Packer and Carolyn Nystrom write in Praying: Finding Our Way Through Duty to Delight:
"In all of this our difficulties arise from the unawareness of the limits of our own spiritual wisdom, as well as our failure to realize that God does not limit himself by those limits of ours when he answers our prayers for help in time of need."
God intends for prayer to bolster our faith. But our faith won’t grow unless we confess that our perspective is limited and trust God to do his will. God is good. All the time. And he is using the circumstances of our life to conform us into the image of his Son (Rom. 8:29), “who was delivered up for our trespasses and raised for our justification” (Rom. 4:25). If Jesus could endure such horror on our behalf, what can we not endure when sustained by the Holy Spirit through prayer? “He who did not spare his own Son but gave him up for us all, how will he not also with him graciously give us all things? (Rom. 8:32)
“While you complain about your light bill, there’s someone with no home. While you complain about your job, there’s someone praying for a dollar. While you complain that gas is to high, there’s someone who’s only option is to walk. While you complain about your significant other, there’s someone dreaming of having somebody. While you complain about the food in your pantry, there’s someone praying for crumbs. While you complain about the world we live in, there’s someone who didn’t wake up today to see it. Your complaints are simply blessings to others. Be thankful!”—(via americanbeautiful0129)
The challenge with white privilege is that most white people cannot see it. We assume that the experiences and opportunities afforded to us are the same afforded to others. Sadly, this simply isn’t true. Privileged people can fall into the trap of universalizing experiences and laying them across other people’s experiences as an interpretive lens. For instance, a privileged person may not understand why anyone would mistrust a public servant simply because they have never had a viable reason to mistrust a public servant. The list goes on.
What is so deceptive about white privilege is that it is different from blatant racism or bias. A privileged person’s heart may be free from racist thoughts or biased attitudes, but may still fail to see how the very privilege afforded to him or her shapes how he or she interprets and understands the situations and circumstances of people without privilege.
I don’t have to warn my son in the same ways that a black dad has to warn his son. I have never had to coach my son on how to keep his hands out of his pockets when going through a convenience store. Many of my black brothers are having these conversations with their boys now. Again, the list goes on.
It has been my experience that there are few things that enrage a large portion of white people like addressing racism and privilege. We want to move past it, but we are not past it. Clearly, we are not past it. So, let’s press in to it.
“I do not define myself by how many roadblocks have appeared on my path.
I define myself by the courage I’ve found to forge new roads.
I do not define myself by how many disappointments I’ve faced.
I define myself by the forgiveness and faith I’ve found to start again.
I do not define myself by how long a relationship lasted.
I define myself by how much I have loved, and am willing to love again.
I do not define myself by how many times I’ve been knocked down.
I define myself by how many times I’ve struggled to my feet.
I am not my pain.
I am not my past.
I am that which has emerged from the fire.”—Unknown (via onlinecounsellingcollege)
Christians often talk about actively changing the world, but too often, we just sit still and passively watch the struggles of others without participating, leading, or caring—we don’t love.
Why? Because many Christians have an inability to use their imagination.
People who can’t use their imagination are susceptible to bigotry, racism, hatred, and violence towards others. Why? Because they can’t imagine any other scenario other than their own. They have an inability to see themselves in someone elses shoes. They can’t see beyond their own narrow reality.
They can’t imagine themselves being poor.
They can’t imagine themselves being abused.
They can’t imagine themselves being unlawfully arrested.
They can’t imagine themselves having a different skin color.
They can’t imagine themselves living in a different country.
They can’t imagine themselves being immersed in a different culture.
They can’t imagine themselves being raised in a different family structure.
They can’t imagine themselves believing in a different religion.
They can’t imagine themselves being ruled by a different political party.
They can’t imagine themselves having different values, priorities, and beliefs.
Imagine being pulled over just because of your skin color.
Imagine a child being the victim of racism.
Imagine if that child was your son, relative, and neighbor.
Imagine having ebola.
Imagine living in a war-torn country.
Imagine losing your home and possessions to bombs and shelling.
Imagine starving for food and thirsting for water.
Imagine having your family executed right in front of you.
Because when you can’t imagine, you can’t empathize, understand, or relate with the struggles, pain, suffering, persecution, and trials of others—you become apathetic, unmoved, stoic, and inactive.
“I wish I could tell you this every morning you awake; that you are enough. That you are an intricate, vibrant life. That every soft breath from your lips, and every timid heartbeat, is precious and beautiful.”—(via purplebuddhaproject)
Theology doesn’t save us from spiritual burnout— people do. And the people that save us are empowered by God.No matter how convincing our doctrines and beliefs may be, they’re ultimately empty and and unsatisfying if there’s no human relationship that personifies them.
Abusive Expectations - Makes impossible demands, requires constant attention, and constantly criticizes.
Aggressing - Name calling, accusing, blames, threatens or gives orders, and often disguised as a judgmental “I know best” or “helping” attitude.
Constant Chaos - Deliberately starts arguments with you or others. May treat you well in front of others, but changes when you’re alone.
Rejecting - Refusing to acknowledge a person’s value, worth or presence. Communicating that he or she is useless or inferior or devaluing his or her thoughts and feelings.
Denying - Denies personal needs (especially when need is greatest) with the intent of causing hurt or as punishment. Uses silent treatment as punishment. Denies certain events happened or things that were said. Denies your perceptions, memory and sanity by disallowing any viewpoints other than their own which causes self-doubt, confusion, and loss of self-esteem.
Degrading - Any behavior that diminishes the identity, worth or dignity of the person such as: name-calling, mocking, teasing, insulting, ridiculing,
Emotional Blackmail - Uses guilt, compassion, or fear to get what he or she wants.
Terrorizing - Inducing intense fear or terror in a person, by threats or coercion.
Invalidation - Attempts to distort your perception of the world by refusing to acknowledge your personal reality. Says that your emotions and perceptions aren’t real and shouldn’t be trusted.
Isolating - Reducing or restricting freedom and normal contact with others.
Corrupting - Convincing a person to accept and engage in illegal activities.
Exploiting - Using a person for advantage or profit.
Minimizing - A less extreme form of denial that trivializes something you’ve expressed as unimportant or inconsequential.
Unpredictable Responses - Gets angry and upset in a situation that would normally not warrant a response. You walk around on eggshells to avoid any unnecessary drama over innocent comments you make. Drastic mood swings and outbursts.
Gaslighting -A form of psychological abuse involving the manipulation of situations or events that cause a person to be confused or to doubt his perceptions and memories. Gaslighting causes victims to constantly second-guess themselves and wonder if they’re losing their minds.
“If I am to love my brother, I must somehow enter deep into the mystery of God’s love for him. I must be moved not only by human sympathy but by that divine sympathy which is revealed to us in Jesus and which enriches our own lives by the outpouring of the Holy Spirit in our hearts.”—
First of all, I hope you have a nice day. Stay pretty, stay humble, and love yourself. Love also everyone, your friends, family, and most of all your enemies. Always know that even with whatever things that has been happening in your life, God will always be there for you. He will never leave you nor forsake you. Just keep the faith. God bless you always.
“You knew me before I was formed; my every thought, every word spoken, every mistake made. You knew when I would fake a smile and when I would break. You knew when I would lie, when I would run too the enemy and all his promises. You knew every part of me and you still knitted me in the womb with the utmost care. You remembered my name when You paid the price. You knew of my human nature, and You loved me without any conditions. You loved me before I knew what love was. You adored me when I rejected You. I came into this world a sinner, and You forgave me long before I took my first breath. Your arms are still outreached, even though You know all I have done and will do, because You loved me first.”—You knew and You loved me anyways. (via heldinhishands)
“Our timing, more often than not, does not align with His. We say five years, He says tomorrow. We say today, He says, “Wait on Me.” Obedience through trust must be learned. Patience is an outflow from love. The heart that loves and is nourished by His love resolves to be patient - fully trusting that He knows best; and He does. He really does.”—Susanna Avery (via breanna-lynn)
“Think of those in your world who are struggling with God’s timing in answering their prayers and who need your love and help.
By supporting those who are struggling, you may help them remain steadfast in their faith and confident in His timing to bring fulfillment to their lives”—Life application study Bible
“In our weakness is where we find true strength. It is a good thing to be in uncomfortable situations because we learn to reach out in faith to trust in God rather than in ourselves. We open up the opportunity for God to move in our lives like we hear about but never experience. His power works best in weakness and His Holy Spirit is our Comforter.”—(via sonofhislove)
“We tend to think of blessings in terms of prosperity rather than the high-quality relationships God makes possible for us.
No matter what our economic situation, we can love and respect the people God has brought into our lives. In so doing, we give and receive blessings.
Love is the greatest blessing.”—Life application study Bible
“Much of the New Testament was written by someone who tried to destroy the lives of all Christians everywhere. God chose that man and blasted him off his donkey with a laser beam for a reason: to make it clear that nobody could read that book and think themselves a worse sinner than the man who wrote it. Paul himself said: ‘here is a trustworthy saying that deserves full acceptance: Christ Jesus came into the world to save sinners—of whom I am the worst’ (1 Timothy 1:15).”—Unka Glen (unkaglen.tumblr.com)