“While you complain about your light bill, there’s someone with no home. While you complain about your job, there’s someone praying for a dollar. While you complain that gas is to high, there’s someone who’s only option is to walk. While you complain about your significant other, there’s someone dreaming of having somebody. While you complain about the food in your pantry, there’s someone praying for crumbs. While you complain about the world we live in, there’s someone who didn’t wake up today to see it. Your complaints are simply blessings to others. Be thankful!”—(via americanbeautiful0129)
The challenge with white privilege is that most white people cannot see it. We assume that the experiences and opportunities afforded to us are the same afforded to others. Sadly, this simply isn’t true. Privileged people can fall into the trap of universalizing experiences and laying them across other people’s experiences as an interpretive lens. For instance, a privileged person may not understand why anyone would mistrust a public servant simply because they have never had a viable reason to mistrust a public servant. The list goes on.
What is so deceptive about white privilege is that it is different from blatant racism or bias. A privileged person’s heart may be free from racist thoughts or biased attitudes, but may still fail to see how the very privilege afforded to him or her shapes how he or she interprets and understands the situations and circumstances of people without privilege.
I don’t have to warn my son in the same ways that a black dad has to warn his son. I have never had to coach my son on how to keep his hands out of his pockets when going through a convenience store. Many of my black brothers are having these conversations with their boys now. Again, the list goes on.
It has been my experience that there are few things that enrage a large portion of white people like addressing racism and privilege. We want to move past it, but we are not past it. Clearly, we are not past it. So, let’s press in to it.
“I do not define myself by how many roadblocks have appeared on my path.
I define myself by the courage I’ve found to forge new roads.
I do not define myself by how many disappointments I’ve faced.
I define myself by the forgiveness and faith I’ve found to start again.
I do not define myself by how long a relationship lasted.
I define myself by how much I have loved, and am willing to love again.
I do not define myself by how many times I’ve been knocked down.
I define myself by how many times I’ve struggled to my feet.
I am not my pain.
I am not my past.
I am that which has emerged from the fire.”—Unknown (via onlinecounsellingcollege)
Christians often talk about actively changing the world, but too often, we just sit still and passively watch the struggles of others without participating, leading, or caring—we don’t love.
Why? Because many Christians have an inability to use their imagination.
People who can’t use their imagination are susceptible to bigotry, racism, hatred, and violence towards others. Why? Because they can’t imagine any other scenario other than their own. They have an inability to see themselves in someone elses shoes. They can’t see beyond their own narrow reality.
They can’t imagine themselves being poor.
They can’t imagine themselves being abused.
They can’t imagine themselves being unlawfully arrested.
They can’t imagine themselves having a different skin color.
They can’t imagine themselves living in a different country.
They can’t imagine themselves being immersed in a different culture.
They can’t imagine themselves being raised in a different family structure.
They can’t imagine themselves believing in a different religion.
They can’t imagine themselves being ruled by a different political party.
They can’t imagine themselves having different values, priorities, and beliefs.
Imagine being pulled over just because of your skin color.
Imagine a child being the victim of racism.
Imagine if that child was your son, relative, and neighbor.
Imagine having ebola.
Imagine living in a war-torn country.
Imagine losing your home and possessions to bombs and shelling.
Imagine starving for food and thirsting for water.
Imagine having your family executed right in front of you.
Because when you can’t imagine, you can’t empathize, understand, or relate with the struggles, pain, suffering, persecution, and trials of others—you become apathetic, unmoved, stoic, and inactive.
“I wish I could tell you this every morning you awake; that you are enough. That you are an intricate, vibrant life. That every soft breath from your lips, and every timid heartbeat, is precious and beautiful.”—(via purplebuddhaproject)
Theology doesn’t save us from spiritual burnout— people do. And the people that save us are empowered by God.No matter how convincing our doctrines and beliefs may be, they’re ultimately empty and and unsatisfying if there’s no human relationship that personifies them.
Abusive Expectations - Makes impossible demands, requires constant attention, and constantly criticizes.
Aggressing - Name calling, accusing, blames, threatens or gives orders, and often disguised as a judgmental “I know best” or “helping” attitude.
Constant Chaos - Deliberately starts arguments with you or others. May treat you well in front of others, but changes when you’re alone.
Rejecting - Refusing to acknowledge a person’s value, worth or presence. Communicating that he or she is useless or inferior or devaluing his or her thoughts and feelings.
Denying - Denies personal needs (especially when need is greatest) with the intent of causing hurt or as punishment. Uses silent treatment as punishment. Denies certain events happened or things that were said. Denies your perceptions, memory and sanity by disallowing any viewpoints other than their own which causes self-doubt, confusion, and loss of self-esteem.
Degrading - Any behavior that diminishes the identity, worth or dignity of the person such as: name-calling, mocking, teasing, insulting, ridiculing,
Emotional Blackmail - Uses guilt, compassion, or fear to get what he or she wants.
Terrorizing - Inducing intense fear or terror in a person, by threats or coercion.
Invalidation - Attempts to distort your perception of the world by refusing to acknowledge your personal reality. Says that your emotions and perceptions aren’t real and shouldn’t be trusted.
Isolating - Reducing or restricting freedom and normal contact with others.
Corrupting - Convincing a person to accept and engage in illegal activities.
Exploiting - Using a person for advantage or profit.
Minimizing - A less extreme form of denial that trivializes something you’ve expressed as unimportant or inconsequential.
Unpredictable Responses - Gets angry and upset in a situation that would normally not warrant a response. You walk around on eggshells to avoid any unnecessary drama over innocent comments you make. Drastic mood swings and outbursts.
Gaslighting -A form of psychological abuse involving the manipulation of situations or events that cause a person to be confused or to doubt his perceptions and memories. Gaslighting causes victims to constantly second-guess themselves and wonder if they’re losing their minds.
“If I am to love my brother, I must somehow enter deep into the mystery of God’s love for him. I must be moved not only by human sympathy but by that divine sympathy which is revealed to us in Jesus and which enriches our own lives by the outpouring of the Holy Spirit in our hearts.”—
First of all, I hope you have a nice day. Stay pretty, stay humble, and love yourself. Love also everyone, your friends, family, and most of all your enemies. Always know that even with whatever things that has been happening in your life, God will always be there for you. He will never leave you nor forsake you. Just keep the faith. God bless you always.
“You knew me before I was formed; my every thought, every word spoken, every mistake made. You knew when I would fake a smile and when I would break. You knew when I would lie, when I would run too the enemy and all his promises. You knew every part of me and you still knitted me in the womb with the utmost care. You remembered my name when You paid the price. You knew of my human nature, and You loved me without any conditions. You loved me before I knew what love was. You adored me when I rejected You. I came into this world a sinner, and You forgave me long before I took my first breath. Your arms are still outreached, even though You know all I have done and will do, because You loved me first.”—You knew and You loved me anyways. (via heldinhishands)
“Our timing, more often than not, does not align with His. We say five years, He says tomorrow. We say today, He says, “Wait on Me.” Obedience through trust must be learned. Patience is an outflow from love. The heart that loves and is nourished by His love resolves to be patient - fully trusting that He knows best; and He does. He really does.”—Susanna Avery (via breanna-lynn)
“Think of those in your world who are struggling with God’s timing in answering their prayers and who need your love and help.
By supporting those who are struggling, you may help them remain steadfast in their faith and confident in His timing to bring fulfillment to their lives”—Life application study Bible
“In our weakness is where we find true strength. It is a good thing to be in uncomfortable situations because we learn to reach out in faith to trust in God rather than in ourselves. We open up the opportunity for God to move in our lives like we hear about but never experience. His power works best in weakness and His Holy Spirit is our Comforter.”—(via sonofhislove)
“We tend to think of blessings in terms of prosperity rather than the high-quality relationships God makes possible for us.
No matter what our economic situation, we can love and respect the people God has brought into our lives. In so doing, we give and receive blessings.
Love is the greatest blessing.”—Life application study Bible
“Much of the New Testament was written by someone who tried to destroy the lives of all Christians everywhere. God chose that man and blasted him off his donkey with a laser beam for a reason: to make it clear that nobody could read that book and think themselves a worse sinner than the man who wrote it. Paul himself said: ‘here is a trustworthy saying that deserves full acceptance: Christ Jesus came into the world to save sinners—of whom I am the worst’ (1 Timothy 1:15).”—Unka Glen (unkaglen.tumblr.com)
“Love is what we are born with. Fear is what we have learned here. The spiritual journey is the unlearning of fear and the acceptance of love back into our hearts.”—Marianne Williamson (via danielasarahy)
“The core of
your true self
is never lost.
Let go of all
and the becoming
you’ve done just
to belong. Curl up
with your rawness
and come home.
You don’t have to
you just have to
let yourself in.”—D. Antoinette Foy (via foymeetsworld)
“Every single time I’ve lowered my guard, dropped my pride, and approached God confessing my need for him, he meets me. He never turns me away, embarrasses me, or rejects my vulnerability. He relentlessly extends himself to us and willingly restores our identity in Christ. Don’t be confused—our identity is secure. It’s not security He’s restoring, but our mindset so we can live in the boldness that comes with knowing who we are. It’s a heavy proclamation, but it’s true—that we have been made the righteousness of Christ.”—LB, To Taste & See (via yesdarlingido)