Is it really possible to overcome lust in today’s culture? Darrin Patrick discusses lust, porn, adultery, and God’s ultimate design for our sexuality.
Often when you go into a relationship with someone you like, you have to justify why you like that person. You only see what you want to see and you deny there are things you don’t like about that person. You lie to yourself just to make yourself right. Then you make assumptions, and one of the assumptions is “My love will change this person.” But this is not true. Your love will not change anybody. If others change, it’s because they want to change, not because YOU change them. Then something happens between the two of you, and you get hurt. Suddenly you see what you didn’t want to see before, only now it is amplified by your emotional poison. Now you have to justify your emotional pain and blame them for your choices.
We don’t need to justify love; it is there or not there. Real love is accepting other people the way they are without trying to change them. If we try to change them, that means we don’t really like them. Of course, you decide to live with someone, if you make that agreement, it is always better to make that agreement with someone who is exactly the way you want him or her to be.
Find someone whom you don’t have to change at all. It is much easier to find someone who is already the way you want him or her to be, instead of trying to change that person. Also, that person must love you just the way you are, so he or she doesn’t have to change you at all. If others feel they have to change you, that means they really don’t love you just the way you are. So why be with someone if you’re not the way he or she wants you to be?
We have to be what we are, so we don’t have to present a false image. If you love me the way I am, “Okay, take me.” If you don’t love me the way I am, “Okay, bye-bye. Find someone else.” It may sound harsh, but this kind of communication means the personal agreements we make with others are clear and impeccable.”
— Don Miguel Ruiz (via mindofataurus)
“They thought that the bullets would silence us. But they failed. The terrorists thought that they would change our aims and stop our ambitions but nothing changed in my life except this: Weakness, fear and hopelessness died. Strength, power and courage was born.”
"I am the same Malala. My ambitions are the same. My hopes are the same. My dreams are the same." -Malala Yousafazai
Congratulations Malala, one of our heroes, for winning the Nobel Peace Prize.
For more on the prize, read 8 Ways Malala Has Made The World Better For Women
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